When I was coaching athletes, one of the simplest yet most effective frameworks I created was called the SEMM Model: Sleep, Eat, Move, and Manage.

It worked because it addressed the key areas that every athlete needed to optimize in order to reach peak performance.

Sleep: Recovery was non-negotiable. Rest was as important as training.

Eat: Nutrition wasn’t just fuel—it was foundational.

Move: Strength and conditioning were dialed into their unique needs.

Manage: We taught them to handle the mental and emotional stress of their sport.

What made SEMM so powerful wasn’t just that it was easy to remember—it’s that it covered everything necessary for success. It was comprehensive but simple enough to take action.

As I’ve shifted from coaching athletes to coaching dads, I realized they need a similar framework to thrive. That’s where the Four F’s come in:

Faith: This is the foundation for everything. Just like sleep for an athlete, your family’s spiritual health is non-negotiable. How are you actively prioritizing your walk with God? Are you creating rhythms of prayer, worship, and Bible study as a family?

Fidelity: This focuses on your marriage. If your relationship with your spouse is out of sync, it creates ripple effects across the entire family. What are you doing to invest in your partnership and show your kids what a healthy marriage looks like?

Fatherhood: Leadership at home begins with you. Are you being intentional about guiding your kids, mentoring them, and setting an example of strength and grace? Just as athletes need a coach, your kids need you as their guide.

Fellowship: Families aren’t meant to exist in isolation. How are you building connections with others, creating opportunities for service, and making your home a place of hospitality?

The Four F’s are a blueprint for strengthening your family in every season. Just like SEMM, it’s a clear, actionable framework that allows you to focus on what matters most without feeling overwhelmed.

You don’t need to fix everything all at once. Pick one area and take a small, intentional step forward. Maybe it’s leading a bedtime prayer with your kids (Faith), or hosting another family for dinner (Fellowship).

Progress comes when we stay consistent, stay intentional, and stay present.

The first step is assessing yourself in each area. I’ve got two ways you go do this:

1. Hit reply and say “Send me the pdf” – a simple one-page document you can use to assess yourself in all 4 areas.
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2. Click this link to take a short survey – it will give you an in-depth report on how you’re doing and action steps you can start taking today. For what it’s worth, I’ve only got 10 free survey attempts for this one.

Which of the Four F’s stands out as the most important for your family right now? Hit reply and let me know—I’d love to hear how this framework could impact your home.